“THEY did it.” “THEY convinced the California voting public to vote against equal marriage rights with Proposition 8.” It’s so easy to get into a blame game against the hateful right-wing preachers, conservative news anchors and the like, seeing them as the enemy and source of all evil. Isn’t it? I’ve certainly had the perspective. But isn’t that hatred also?
If you know me much, you know that I don’t have a dualistic view about everything. I’ve decided the “us verses them” viewpoint isn’t healthy for anyone.
If we spend our energy constantly fighting, never accepting where we are right now, are we really enjoying our lives? Where’s the gayety in hating? That’s not to say we shouldn’t engage. And post-California Prop 8 (which is expected to be overturned by the U.S. Supreme Court) there are folks in other states that need to be engaged. The Huffington Post has a cool page with all the latest details here.
What about the memes around how we think of gay people?
As Merriam-Webster defines it, a meme is “an idea, behavior, style, or usage that spreads from person to person within a culture.”
Unfortunately, the “God hates fags” meme is incredibly wide spread. You don’t have to believe it fully to have that phrase sitting there in your brain.
Can you imagine if “My God Thinks I’m Fabulous” was a more common meme? Perhaps we’d forget all about the other, ridiculous meme.
How about this for an idea. Wake up and say “thank you” for what you have. For your bed. Your body. Your life. Then go about your day and look for opportunities to respectfully listen and engage with family, friends, coworkers, kindly offering new, more useful memes.
I’m hoping this doesn’t come across as preachy. But if it does, thank my dad, who was a Methodist minister in one of his many careers. :-)